Some people feel successful when they are in a fulfilling relationship or marriage,
while others feel accomplished if they manage to "do it themselves." like learning
to browse the Internet without help from their children. They may think that the
key to a fulfilled life comes from doing the right things.
This false picture of the triumphant person is fostered by business leaders,
college professors, and management schools who have a vested interest in shaping
each student into a man or woman who is ready to interview well for a job
and step into society’s expectations for success.
Who Is a Successful Person?
The idea that a successful person is actually defined by external accomplishments
is inaccurate. For example, the man who makes a lot of money, or a woman who collects
the finer things in life, is based on a false presumption. While external accomplishments
can be an indicator, someone truly flourish is how they are in relationship to the
world before they do anything.
Think for a moment how different the modern world would be if each individual
were encouraged to become accomplished in a way that was behaving in a way that
was in alignment with his or her true self!
In reality, the most impactful people around adhere to a definition of success
that is authentic and reflective of themselves internally rather than to a standard
set by the external world. It is contrary to what most people are told, yet it is
the way that it is actually done. The internal world meeting and shaping the external,
not the other way around!
In other words, who they are living as someone who has already succeeded, prior
to any outside event. There is no need for a presentation to the world, which does
not match their internal experience.
How to Succeed in Life
You may be struggling with seeing yourself as a person capible of succeeding, and that can
actually be a good thing. You can take what you are perceiving as a struggle as
an actual signal from yourself that you're out of alignment. Start by considering
how you are when you are aware of yourself is connected to something larger than
yourself while almost simultaneously being ready for anything… then, like this,
do the next thing that needs to be done, then the next thing, and so on, and so
on.
One way to help yourself here, in is to team up with someone else who is going
through the same process. Coach each other, support each other, and help each other
along the path of self-improvement. Some days you will find yourself in the role
of teacher and your teammate in the role of student, while on other days the roles
will be reversed. The most important thing is that you both are striving to be more
of who you are.
